My Sanctuary, My Serenity

The last few days were spent tackling the space I call home. When I say tackle I mean really becoming interactive with the space and remove the things I no longer needed or did not serve me purpose. It was long over due and with the new year fastly approaching it was a task I had to get done. 

You see, I am a person who hoards. Yes, I said it. I hold on, I conceal, I keep things hidden, stored away in places never to be exposed. It is very hard for me to let go and I realized that through this process. 

I had a dear friend of mine support me during this task and she helped me tremendously with the “removal”. She made it easier for me to “let go”. “Letting Go” meant I no longer needed to be attached to the belongings I kept stored in my space all these years. I started to realize my belongings became comforting, securing and safe. But in order for growth to happen, I needed to clear not only my mind but my space as well.As the garbage bags became filled with unwanted and unnecessary items, my spirit began to feel lighter. It was as if pounds of weight had been shed from my body. 

I discovered that your space is your sanctuary. It is special, sacred and not to be tampered with. It should not be filled with toxins that invade your environment. We are responsible for the space we live in. We need to ensure that it is clutter-free, warm and inviting. I learned throughout this experience your sanctuary is what you make it, so choose wisely. As we countdown the hours to a new year, make sure you are extracting all things from your life that will prohibit you from elevation. Remember, growth is a sign of love.❤️

My Passion, My Love

But when you are truly living in your purpose, it never feels like work.

What wakes me up on the most dreary days is my love for youth. Youth empowerment and education are at the forefront of my life. I have worked in this field for almost a decade. The work that is done in this line of work sometimes is overlooked and not taken seriously. Some people don’t understand the patience, devotion and commitment it takes to steer youth in the right direction.
 Realizing that our youth come from various backgrounds, and dealing with challenging family dynamics it takes a special person to connect with our youth. This work is never done after your assigned shift. You may find yourself working overtime for “free” tending to the needs of kids. 
This is something I was born to do. No matter how I feel, I know that there is one person depending on me. Looking forward to my greeting, my hug, my interaction. That’s what fills me up inside. That’s what makes my heart smile. 
I was reminded of this last week when my former student asked me to write her recommendation letter for her. I was her college advisor when she started her undergraduate journey to Hampton University. Now, 3 years later she is looking forward to obtaining her MBA. She stated that she made a genuine connection with me and always admired my ability to keep our relationship alive over the years. This made me smile as it made me realize when you do good work your impact will always be felt for years to come.

 Always make sure that you are walking in your purpose. That first begins with recognizing your passion. What you give energy to, has your time, has your heart and has your love.❤️

The Greatest Gift Of All

Love always finds a way to show me how special it is. It is delicate, soft, unwavering. It is a powerful force that softens the hardest hearts. It brings hope to the hopeless and covers you in the coldest nights. I am excited to see that it is still sought after. It completes you. It is feeling felt from within. It gets you through the toughest days. It’s unselfish, humble and beautiful. It makes for the best unions and builds the strongest of foundations. It is a motivator, a game changer and a soul shaker. It allows one to step out of their comfort zone and venture into the unknown. Love is peaceful, patient and protective. Should you find these characteristics in a person hold on tight and never let go for the realest, purest form of LOVE is the greatest gift of all. ❤️

The 4 P’s of Love

This past weekend was filled with laughter, love and excitement. I got a chance to catch up with a girlfriend of mine who recently moved into a co-op apartment. 
The place screamed elegance. She had a theme of vintage and modern elements which gave way to her personality. I also noticed she had a picture up of her boyfriend. This was a big step as she revealed that he has now moved in to her apartment. 

He has Professed that he wants to take things to the next level and has intentions on marrying her. He has made a Plan for them to save up and move into a house of their own next year. Things for her mate have moved in the right direction and he has now reached a point of financial stability. 

As a result she stated that he has become more confident in himself and feels he is in a position to Provide for her and the household that they now share. He has proven over the years that he can Protect her so she is completely secure when around him. After leaving her home, I knew there would be a proposal coming soon!

The 4 Ps to a successful union are as follows: 

Provide– when one is secure and confident in who they are on all levels: Mentally, Physically and Financially. Once they have reached this state, they will have the autonomy to be in a relationship. For a man, financial freedom = stability.He is equipped with the tools to take care of you while nourishing your soul. 

Protect- A man should be able to stand by you and behind you. He should be able to sheild you in times of a storm and on the sunny days. He is your rock, a force not to be reckoned with.

Profess– Oh yes! This in my opinion is one of the most important P’s. To profess is to express with your heart, mind and soul that she is the one. He has made his intentions clear and has no problem saying the words aloud. Remember words are powerful therefore, listen carefully.

Plan– a path, a destiny and or direction. Yes, Your man should have a plan for you. He sees you as an integral part of his present and future. There should be clear plan that you are in agreement with. If you and your mate are not singing the same song, you might want to make sure yall are listening to the same album. 

With all that being said, make sure you take heed to the 4 P’s. It will make your journey into love that much clearer. ❤️