Settling Will Never Be An Option

 My friends have done a great job of keeping LOVE alive. Within a matter of 3 weeks, three of my friends have accepted the invitation of spending the rest of their lives with their partners. This has got to be one of those life altering decisions for a person. It’s all fun and games until we say “I Do”. This is forever. No turning back. You are moving into a commitment of eternity. A commitment that is rooted in understanding, friendship and respect. It is a connection that has been protected by God who has shielded it from any hate, toxicity and negativity. 

My girlfriends have made it very hard for me to settle. They’re living examples of what patience, keeping the faith, and what LOVE looks like. It’s about taking a risk and moving out of your comfort zone. It’s about being there for your partner when he/she hits rock bottom. It’s about allowing each other to become individuals and grow into your true self before becoming one. There is no way I could think about being with just anybody. I deserve to have the LOVE that lives to my standards. The LOVE that is endless, forgiving, selfless, endearing and genuine.


When I received the image of their latest diamond accessory decorating their finger a part of me felt like I had just been proposed to. I felt a sudden rush of excitement fill my heart. Smiling and screaming hysterically as if we had finished the race of LOVE together. To witness love up close and be on the journey with my girls is truly a blessing.

 I want to thank all of the couples who continue to set the bar high. Thank you for being a reminder for me to never stop believing no matter how long it takes. “The LOVE worth having will never come easy, but it will be definitely worth the wait”❤️

If He Can Wait, You Can Wait 

So if you tuned into Love and Hip Hop New York last Monday you witnesssed the union between Remy Ma and Pappoose. I usually don’t write about reality shows but this is a story line that spoke to my heart.
Rapper Remy Ma was locked up for the past 7 years. She was released sometime last year where she was welcomed by her husband Papoose and her family. This has to be one of the hardest transitions for any individual to make. Being stripped from all that you love with hopes that the same people will be there for you once you have done your sentence. But like the “phrase says, “you do the crime you do the time”. One thing that has always remained a constant in Remy Ma’s life is her man Papoose.
His abiity to hold on, be there, and protect his woman is nothing short of amazing. All he could do during this season was “Wait”. This allowed for them to connect on a deeper level. It was an opportunity for them to get to know each other. Deepen their communication that far exceeded the physical. He exhibits a level of patience and understanding that no one I know has exemplified.
Why do I bring this up? Or make it a point to capture in words? You never know when God will test your faith. Test your relationship. Take you to a place you never thought you could go. But when the LOVE is strong there is no mountain that one can’t climb. There is no hurdle to high enough. It is in you time of “Wait” where you go through the most trials and it is your ability to handle yourself and remain steadfast.
To be patient and “Wait” is mind over matter. We don’t realize that we can accomplish and get through anything if we put our mind to it. We allow the people around us and the elements in society to often cloud our judgement. I’m sure there were people in Paopoose’s life who told him it would never work, and brought a whole lot of negativity to him while he was in his “waiting” season. But his ability to not waver makes him an incredible partner.
God might have you in a “waiting” season right now. Don’t be discouraged or dwell on feelings of loneliness but think of how much of a better person you can become in this time. Take this time to reflect, build a better relationship with God, your family, friends and most importantly yourself. Remember, great things comes to those who “Wait”.❤️