Our Black Is Beautiful

As I was closing out my day I ran into an employee who seemed to be pretty saddened. Getting ready to put my finger on the elevator button, she stopped me and said, “Our youth are in trouble, especially our girls”. From my work with youth I knew this statement to be true. 
Society has made it very hard for young people to be comfortable in their own skin. She went on to tell me that she asked one of our high school students what did she want to be when she grows up and her response was heartbreaking. The young girl stated she wanted to be light skinned. Not a doctor, dancer or a teacher. Not a cosmetologist, social worker or a lawyer. The young girl aspires to have lighter skin. What are we doing as as society that makes a young girl decide to tamper with her skin color? Where are her parents kissing and hugging her letting her know her skin is beautiful? What images is she being exposed to to make her feel otherwise?

We have to do a better job at letting our kids know that beauty comes in all shades. We need to be involved in what conversations our young girls are having with their peers. Social media has become a very harsh and negative impact on how beauty is perceived. We have to be mindful of the images that penetrate the hearts and minds of our young girls. We need to celebrate their size, shape and various skin tones every chance we get.


 Before we can begin to LOVE anyone, we have to start with ourselves. If we don’t start doing this, we will only continue to breed a world of self-hate which can lead to more harmful actions. To anyone who is reading this, please share, educate, enlighten and encourage our young girls to LOVE the skin their in. ❀️

New Year: Thirty Deuce

  1. So along side a special someone coming into my life, this summer I celebrated my birthday. This is also something I look forward to this season . A celebration of birth is like hitting the reset button on your life. Its your personal “new year”. Set new goals you want to obtain for yourself. I always have enjoyed celebrating my birthday. Now that I have reached the age of 32 (ThirtyDeuce) there are some “major keys”πŸ”‘πŸ”‘πŸ”‘ I wanted to share with you all.
    πŸ”‘1. What you put out is what you shall receive.Β 

I didn’t fully believe this until this year. I am constantly reminded of the person I am through the ppl I surround myself with. Not only are they good to me but they are directly an extension of me. The love and the appreciation I was shown for my birthday was more than I expected. It started with a couple of my girlfriends taking a wine tasting tour with me in the Hamptons. (If you haven’t done a wine stating tour, I suggest you do one before the season is over!) From my students getting out of their classrooms to make it to my office to send me a warm greeting to my coworkers laying out a huge spread of caribbean food with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I have always been a fan of LOVE and I truly believe the best way to receive that is how you treat others.

πŸ”‘2. LOVE Yourself

What you listen to, what you read and what you eat can make an impact on yourself. You show LOVE to yourself by what you allow to take up space in your heart, mind and body. I have learned that taking the time to nourish, cultivate and feed every part of you will automatically lead to a better you. How do you talk to yourself? Are you using positive words of affirmation? Do you spend time looking at your reflection ? Taking in the beautiful being God has created? If you have not done so yet I suggest you get a head start. Remember to LOVE another is to first LOVE yourself.

πŸ”‘3. Have Faith & Keep The Faith

Yes. Yes. And Yes. I cannot stress this point enough. Having faith is so crucial to our everyday existence. We live in a world that is unknown, unforeseeable and

our path uncharted. I believe that the Lord is truly our flashlight throughout life. He is the one who sharpens our vision and He knows when to brighten our light. Believe that everything your going through is preparing you for your next step, your next phase, your new chapter. Grab your faith like you do your favorite shade of lipstick and never let it go.

May these keys be a blessing to you as they are for me and take you into your next steps in life. For all those who have a birthday coming up, I wish you a Happy Rebirth and New Year!!❀️