Being Petty Isn’t Pretty 

My beautiful and educated women of color, don’t take this personal, but we need to do better.

Yes Im talking to you. The one reading this who is currently mad at her colleague because she has more curves than you. The woman who is upset at the attention she is receiving from male colleagues. The woman who is mad because her hair extensions are longer. The woman who takes everything that is being said personal. The woman who is angry, bitter and miserable: This Is For You.

 Stop praising your “petty” behavior and start seeking clinical support for your actions. It is not attractive, “cute” or becoming. Hurt people only hurt people and will continue to perpetuate a cycle that will infect the world. You wanna raise a Queen, learn how to wear the crown first. 
This piece is personal for me because of the catty behavior I continue to witness by women of color at my job. I really hope that one day we can stop internalizing the behaviors of others and start being held accountable for the nasty things we say and do to other women. 

The world is already tough. Being a woman and one of color comes with a multitude of challenges. Let’s create more unity, peace and be the example we want to see in the world. ❤

More Like Mrs. Michelle Obama

There are people in this world who we admire, make us better, who we gain inspiration from. For me, my mother is definitely number one on my list. Not because she is my mother, or the woman who gave birth to me but because she offers me so much wisdom and she is the person who taught me how to LOVE. It is because of her, I can show that LOVE to others. I wanna talk about another woman who the nation has grown to love over the past 8 years: Mrs. Michelle Obama.


This incredibly amazing woman has exemplified what beauty, intelligence and grace truly means. She is not just the wife of President Obama, she created her own lane.

She launched “Let’s Move!”, bringing together community leaders, educators, medical professionals, parents, and others in a nationwide effort to address the challenge of childhood obesity.This initiative has changed the lives of our youth nationwide giving families the resources to make better decisions about their child’s nutrition. She has made having a healthy lifestyle a necessity.


She has been coined the most stylish First Lady in history. When Mrs. Michelle Obama comes through, you better make room! She demands attention upon entry and she keeps her mane “on fleek”. Her diction, her poise and confidence is what all women should emulate.


I am truly blessed to have witnessed a woman who looks like me become the first Lady of theUnited States. What she has done for our nation will carry on for generations to come. It is our duty as women to inspire and plant seeds of wisdom and continue the legacy that has been set forth by Mrs. Michelle LaVaughn Robinson Obama. We shall uplift other woman as well as our young girls of the world. Be more like Michelle and you will move more into LOVE.❤

Today is the Day

What is it about the start of a new year that gets everyone excited? Is it the possibility to start something you never got a chance to? Checking things off that long “to do list”? 
Well the time is now. Let’s materialize what we want to happen and stop waiting for the ball to drop. Our time on this earth is not promised. We don’t know when God will call us home. Waking up, breathing in this air and being apart of this world is a privilege not an entitlement. 
You want to see other parts of the world? Well book that trip today. You want to start your own business? Get your draft and resources together and start today. You want to start your own blog, get on line, write your piece and hit submit today. You wanna lose weight, get off the couch and start doing some jumping jacks today.
If 2016 has taught me anything it has to be to “Seize the Day” . Don’t you let another minute go by without making your dreams a reality. I have seen so many young, women of color taking matters into their own hands and owning this world. Becoming entrepreneurs, turning their passion into something profitable. All it takes is effort, consistency and time. Let us be better about how use our time. Let us continue to have people in our circle who will take us to the next level as well as hold us accountable for our actions. 
If you are reading this, I hope that this year brings your more opportunities and gives you the resources to be the best. All that you want to be is up to you. You determine your limitations. Be better than you were yesterday. Be a goal setter and a goal getter. Wishing you more peace, LOVE and light for the 365 days ahead. ❤

December 26th, 2016

Happy Holidays to You All! I hope that everyone is enjoying the season with family and remembering that Jesus is the reason for the season. I wanted to reflect on a deed that I did yesterday. You know the day after Christmas is intended for sleeping off hangovers, returning gift items that we will never use and catching those “After Christmas” deals. All those choices sounded great but after getting 4 and a 1/2 hours of sleep I made sure to keep my commitment and head to a church and help them get Holiday dinner ready. Thanks to a friend of mine she has been connected with the organization and extended the invite to me and and my other friend. As tired as my eyes felt, and the feeling of being in my bed called me I resisted the temptation. 

I picked my friend up and we headed over to the church. As soon as we arrived we got into helping mode. We started cleaning the tables, dressing the tables with holiday decor and adding fresh fruits as the finishing touch. Moments later the homeless people from the community filled the dining space ready to receive their holiday dinner. We then stood on the food line and got their plates ready. To see them be excited to receive their food warmed my heart. For a moment their current reality was not a factor. They engaged in conversation with their neighbor accompanied by laughter. For a moment we were all family. 

It made me feel good to take time out of my day to give back. This is what the holidays are all about. It has very little to do with gifts and showing social media all the latest items you have racked up on December 25th. It is about family, togetherness, being thankful and spreading love all around. Giving up a part of yourself for those who are in need is what life is all about. If God allows I will make this apart of my tradition moving forward. What have you done for your community ? Who have you lifted up? Who have you made better today? Remember an act of service is an act of love. ❤

6 Months Later

       Good Morning and Greetings my fellow followers! It’s been a while since I’ve posted a piece to the blog and put something down for all to see. But I believe its about time. First off, I wanna wish everyone a safe and happy holiday season. I hope that this time of year brings you closer to family and loved ones.
        So as you all know I am currently in a relationship. We are in the 6th month of this journey and let me tell you this has not been easy. I never knew how much work is really required to making a relationship stay alive. It takes and incredible amount of understanding, compromise, respect and patience. I will say that I have matured in many ways during this process. It has allowed me to look at something bigger than myself. I do realize that no matter how much you become connected with your partner you should never forget about yourself. Never forget about the goals you need to accomplish. It is important to have a moment of clarity. I know that being very reflective and self aware will make me a better individual and a better partner. 

     God is really the plug which ignites the power into my relationship. I think being with my boyfriend has made me realize how much HE needs to be present! My boyfriend came into this relationship wanting a deeper connection with God. It wasn’t something forced on him, it wasn’t something I had to beg and plead with him to do. It was very natural and organic. When I heard him continuing to echo the need to be in the Lord’s house months later I knew he was for real. He has in turned deepened my want and need to be in HIS house. It is because of God we have continued to believe in building our foundation. Having patience and staying in prayer has kept me continuing this journey. I have come to learn that a power couple is a praying couple. I embrace the power of patience and prayer on my LOVE journey.
       I wish you all peace, LOVE and Light this season. Always remember: “What God protects no man can destroy”. ❤️

In Praise of Strong Women

I can’t stress enough the power of women. Not just any kind of women but strong women. Women who are goal diggers, movement shakers, spiritual warriors and who are making history. What a blessing is it to know women of this caliber? I must say that I am blessed to be in the presence of these kind of women. I have the pleasure of knowing authors, business owners, certified personal trainers, clinicians, lawyers and educators just to name a few.  


You see a strong woman can only make you stronger. Their testimony can give you insight, sharpen your vision and bring you a sense of peace. Strong women are those who are transparent, honest and not afraid to lay their cards out on the table. They are taking on leadership roles in their careers while slowly closing the gender gap. We are shattering the “glass ceiling”. We have taken on jobs equivalent to the men. We are the “heart” of the home: the nurturers, the protectors and the lovers.

We are taking our ideas and talents and have decided to share it with the world. Our ability to make money has far exceeded the “9-5” shift. We are a force to be reckoned with and we are making our presence felt in this world. Today let a woman know she’s worthy, she’s a warrior and she’s winning. ❤️

Our Black Is Beautiful

As I was closing out my day I ran into an employee who seemed to be pretty saddened. Getting ready to put my finger on the elevator button, she stopped me and said, “Our youth are in trouble, especially our girls”. From my work with youth I knew this statement to be true. 
Society has made it very hard for young people to be comfortable in their own skin. She went on to tell me that she asked one of our high school students what did she want to be when she grows up and her response was heartbreaking. The young girl stated she wanted to be light skinned. Not a doctor, dancer or a teacher. Not a cosmetologist, social worker or a lawyer. The young girl aspires to have lighter skin. What are we doing as as society that makes a young girl decide to tamper with her skin color? Where are her parents kissing and hugging her letting her know her skin is beautiful? What images is she being exposed to to make her feel otherwise?

We have to do a better job at letting our kids know that beauty comes in all shades. We need to be involved in what conversations our young girls are having with their peers. Social media has become a very harsh and negative impact on how beauty is perceived. We have to be mindful of the images that penetrate the hearts and minds of our young girls. We need to celebrate their size, shape and various skin tones every chance we get.


 Before we can begin to LOVE anyone, we have to start with ourselves. If we don’t start doing this, we will only continue to breed a world of self-hate which can lead to more harmful actions. To anyone who is reading this, please share, educate, enlighten and encourage our young girls to LOVE the skin their in. ❤️