New Year: Thirty Deuce

  1. So along side a special someone coming into my life, this summer I celebrated my birthday. This is also something I look forward to this season . A celebration of birth is like hitting the reset button on your life. Its your personal “new year”. Set new goals you want to obtain for yourself. I always have enjoyed celebrating my birthday. Now that I have reached the age of 32 (ThirtyDeuce) there are some “major keys”🔑🔑🔑 I wanted to share with you all.
    🔑1. What you put out is what you shall receive. 

I didn’t fully believe this until this year. I am constantly reminded of the person I am through the ppl I surround myself with. Not only are they good to me but they are directly an extension of me. The love and the appreciation I was shown for my birthday was more than I expected. It started with a couple of my girlfriends taking a wine tasting tour with me in the Hamptons. (If you haven’t done a wine stating tour, I suggest you do one before the season is over!) From my students getting out of their classrooms to make it to my office to send me a warm greeting to my coworkers laying out a huge spread of caribbean food with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I have always been a fan of LOVE and I truly believe the best way to receive that is how you treat others.

🔑2. LOVE Yourself

What you listen to, what you read and what you eat can make an impact on yourself. You show LOVE to yourself by what you allow to take up space in your heart, mind and body. I have learned that taking the time to nourish, cultivate and feed every part of you will automatically lead to a better you. How do you talk to yourself? Are you using positive words of affirmation? Do you spend time looking at your reflection ? Taking in the beautiful being God has created? If you have not done so yet I suggest you get a head start. Remember to LOVE another is to first LOVE yourself.

🔑3. Have Faith & Keep The Faith

Yes. Yes. And Yes. I cannot stress this point enough. Having faith is so crucial to our everyday existence. We live in a world that is unknown, unforeseeable and

our path uncharted. I believe that the Lord is truly our flashlight throughout life. He is the one who sharpens our vision and He knows when to brighten our light. Believe that everything your going through is preparing you for your next step, your next phase, your new chapter. Grab your faith like you do your favorite shade of lipstick and never let it go.

May these keys be a blessing to you as they are for me and take you into your next steps in life. For all those who have a birthday coming up, I wish you a Happy Rebirth and New Year!!❤️

Season of Beginnings

I know I know it’s been awhile. My apologies to all my readers. I hope everyone is enjoying their summer, soaking up this beautiful weather and taking in some good ol fashioned Vitamin D. So there has been a new addition made to my life and I am pretty happy about it. 

That “connection” I made with that special someone I spoke of in my last piece has now become my boyfriend. Wow, still getting use to that word, “boyfriend”. He asked me out a couple of weeks when we connected back in May. I must say the journey thus far has been nice.
 His consistency is refreshing. I can recall the countless Times when I use to wonder if I guy would call me back or respond to my text message. With him, there is no wonder. He reminds me every day how beautiful and amazing I am. Not to say I didn’t know this before but hearing it does make me feel good. 
He is invested in making our relationship work. He lets me know of the plans he has in store for us and he has introduced me to the people he holds close in his heart. He has also taken the time out to start building a rapport with my parents. He has shown me that he is here to build and not to bullshit. 
Last thing I wanted to point out is his spiritual connection. When we eat together and say grace it turns into a mini prayer session. This to me is a very intimate and powerful component to our relationship. To witness a man directly giving thanks to our God above, eyes closed, head bowed and speaking with such conviction is truly a blessing. He has stated he wants to find a church home and that being in the Lord’s house is very important. I don’t know about you but this for me seals the relationship. Knowing the role God plays in our lives as well as in our relationships is a concept I don’t feel a lot of men understand.  
To anyone who has been reading my blog over the years I want you to know that keeping the faith and not settling for anything less is what lead me to this point. This blessing was brought into my life because God felt it was my time, my moment and my season. Always remember to trust the timing of your life. Your LOVE is around the corner. ❤️

Consistency is LOVE

These past few weeks have been fulfilling. Not to say I haven’t felt filled up before. There has been the presence of someone new. He has been a very pleasant surprise and has added an element of excitement, intrigue and adventure. What stands out the most is his consistency. The one thing I have seen other men grapple with he does effortlessly. After seeing each other’s profiles via a dating site, we soon exchanged contact information and as they saying goes, “the rest is history”. We have not missed one day of talking with each other.
When I say talk I mean we have phone conversations. He never misses a “Good Morning” text followed by a “How did you sleep?” message. He has really shown up in ways I have not seen exhibited by a man in a long time. Consistency is not only key but it is also a form of LOVE. For someone to consider you in their day shows how important you are to them. It’s like we have picked up our own rhythm and know how to follow the beat. Not only are the calls and messages consistent but the in person interactions are as well. We plan dates and so far has he not taken a raincheck on one. Seeing me has become apart of his agenda and it feels good to get checked off his “things-to-do list” everytine.
I am thanking God for allowing such a presence to enter my spirit. All the things I have been blogging about are beginning to surface. I am looking forward to this new journey in my life. Looks like LOVE could be on the horizon, stay tuned. ❤️

I Needed the Detour     

Happy Thursday Beautiful People! Wanted to share some light with you this morning. So my commute this morning did not go as smooth as I expected. I was detoured, relocated, put off track due to some investigation on the train line. I was heavily frustrated, angered and wanted to head back home. I was asked to leave the platform, forced to brave the elements of getting to work using an alternate route. Doing this with a bunch of New Yorkers was quite a challenge. If you know one thing about New Yorkers, their patience is non existent. As I waited for the bus the crowd started getting larger and the pushing to get on a bus began. As much as I wanted to fight my way on the first bus I saw, I started to think about my safety. Was it worth it? Getting injured by a fellow commuter to get on a bus? What was the point? I was already late for work. So I did what some thought unimaginable: I waited. Eventually, a bus came by empty ready to load passengers on. With a little shove and wiggling of myself , I got on the bus. Why am I sharing my morning commute? “Whatever will be for you will not pass you by”. Sometimes there are detours and disruptions put in our way for reasons beyond our control. Maybe it was destined for me to take a longer route to work. If we keep calm, say a little prayer, things will always work itself out. I might be late going to work but I think about all I have to be thankful for: my health, being able to enjoy this lovely day, have an opportunity to enjoy the scenic route and have the ability to write about this experience. Just another example of the beauty that lies in the struggle.❤️

“Favor, Aint Fair”

I find it interesting the people who tend to befriend you are the ones who want to stab you in the back the most. Let me clarify. I am not speaking about my sister circle. I am speaking of my professional circle. You know the people who you vent to about work, share ideas with and collborate with? Yeah those people. At some point you start to trust in these individuals, thinking that they will have your back right? Hmm. Well not so much.
I have come to realize that a lot of people do not like to see you shine. Illuminate, glow be this ray of light to others. They find ways to dim your light, put out your fire and darken the space around you. Their sole purpose is to tarnish your name while making themselves look bigger and better. Not realizing that this only makes them look weak, incompetent and much smaller in comparison. 
But when you are given a special gift, it is hard for people to handle that. Like the saying goes, “Favor, aint fair”. I will not allow the preswnce of others, the opinion of others to infiltrate my being. I will continue to stand strong and radiate what others find it hard to do: be the light. I will continue to be a blessing and touch the lives of those I come into contact with. I will use the talents and gifts God gave me to fulfill my destiny. When love lives within you, no one can take that away from you. ❤️

Settling Will Never Be An Option

 My friends have done a great job of keeping LOVE alive. Within a matter of 3 weeks, three of my friends have accepted the invitation of spending the rest of their lives with their partners. This has got to be one of those life altering decisions for a person. It’s all fun and games until we say “I Do”. This is forever. No turning back. You are moving into a commitment of eternity. A commitment that is rooted in understanding, friendship and respect. It is a connection that has been protected by God who has shielded it from any hate, toxicity and negativity. 

My girlfriends have made it very hard for me to settle. They’re living examples of what patience, keeping the faith, and what LOVE looks like. It’s about taking a risk and moving out of your comfort zone. It’s about being there for your partner when he/she hits rock bottom. It’s about allowing each other to become individuals and grow into your true self before becoming one. There is no way I could think about being with just anybody. I deserve to have the LOVE that lives to my standards. The LOVE that is endless, forgiving, selfless, endearing and genuine.

  

When I received the image of their latest diamond accessory decorating their finger a part of me felt like I had just been proposed to. I felt a sudden rush of excitement fill my heart. Smiling and screaming hysterically as if we had finished the race of LOVE together. To witness love up close and be on the journey with my girls is truly a blessing.

  
 I want to thank all of the couples who continue to set the bar high. Thank you for being a reminder for me to never stop believing no matter how long it takes. “The LOVE worth having will never come easy, but it will be definitely worth the wait”❤️

If He Can Wait, You Can Wait 


So if you tuned into Love and Hip Hop New York last Monday you witnesssed the union between Remy Ma and Pappoose. I usually don’t write about reality shows but this is a story line that spoke to my heart.
Rapper Remy Ma was locked up for the past 7 years. She was released sometime last year where she was welcomed by her husband Papoose and her family. This has to be one of the hardest transitions for any individual to make. Being stripped from all that you love with hopes that the same people will be there for you once you have done your sentence. But like the “phrase says, “you do the crime you do the time”. One thing that has always remained a constant in Remy Ma’s life is her man Papoose.
His abiity to hold on, be there, and protect his woman is nothing short of amazing. All he could do during this season was “Wait”. This allowed for them to connect on a deeper level. It was an opportunity for them to get to know each other. Deepen their communication that far exceeded the physical. He exhibits a level of patience and understanding that no one I know has exemplified.
Why do I bring this up? Or make it a point to capture in words? You never know when God will test your faith. Test your relationship. Take you to a place you never thought you could go. But when the LOVE is strong there is no mountain that one can’t climb. There is no hurdle to high enough. It is in you time of “Wait” where you go through the most trials and it is your ability to handle yourself and remain steadfast.
To be patient and “Wait” is mind over matter. We don’t realize that we can accomplish and get through anything if we put our mind to it. We allow the people around us and the elements in society to often cloud our judgement. I’m sure there were people in Paopoose’s life who told him it would never work, and brought a whole lot of negativity to him while he was in his “waiting” season. But his ability to not waver makes him an incredible partner.
God might have you in a “waiting” season right now. Don’t be discouraged or dwell on feelings of loneliness but think of how much of a better person you can become in this time. Take this time to reflect, build a better relationship with God, your family, friends and most importantly yourself. Remember, great things comes to those who “Wait”.❤️