New Year: Thirty Deuce

  1. So along side a special someone coming into my life, this summer I celebrated my birthday. This is also something I look forward to this season . A celebration of birth is like hitting the reset button on your life. Its your personal “new year”. Set new goals you want to obtain for yourself. I always have enjoyed celebrating my birthday. Now that I have reached the age of 32 (ThirtyDeuce) there are some “major keys”🔑🔑🔑 I wanted to share with you all.
    🔑1. What you put out is what you shall receive. 

I didn’t fully believe this until this year. I am constantly reminded of the person I am through the ppl I surround myself with. Not only are they good to me but they are directly an extension of me. The love and the appreciation I was shown for my birthday was more than I expected. It started with a couple of my girlfriends taking a wine tasting tour with me in the Hamptons. (If you haven’t done a wine stating tour, I suggest you do one before the season is over!) From my students getting out of their classrooms to make it to my office to send me a warm greeting to my coworkers laying out a huge spread of caribbean food with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I have always been a fan of LOVE and I truly believe the best way to receive that is how you treat others.

🔑2. LOVE Yourself

What you listen to, what you read and what you eat can make an impact on yourself. You show LOVE to yourself by what you allow to take up space in your heart, mind and body. I have learned that taking the time to nourish, cultivate and feed every part of you will automatically lead to a better you. How do you talk to yourself? Are you using positive words of affirmation? Do you spend time looking at your reflection ? Taking in the beautiful being God has created? If you have not done so yet I suggest you get a head start. Remember to LOVE another is to first LOVE yourself.

🔑3. Have Faith & Keep The Faith

Yes. Yes. And Yes. I cannot stress this point enough. Having faith is so crucial to our everyday existence. We live in a world that is unknown, unforeseeable and

our path uncharted. I believe that the Lord is truly our flashlight throughout life. He is the one who sharpens our vision and He knows when to brighten our light. Believe that everything your going through is preparing you for your next step, your next phase, your new chapter. Grab your faith like you do your favorite shade of lipstick and never let it go.

May these keys be a blessing to you as they are for me and take you into your next steps in life. For all those who have a birthday coming up, I wish you a Happy Rebirth and New Year!!❤️

Twenty “Sweet” Sixteen


We are two days into the new year and let me tell you, it feels GREAT!
I really can’t describe this feeling but it is like I have a rush of butterflies fluttering around in my heart. Something just feels different. Maybe I am different. I think I have such a better understanding of who I am and what my purpose is on this earth. I have a strong core of friends and family that I love dearly. I have done a good job at screening what needs to stay and what needs to go out of my life. So my theme for this year is: Investment. Consider yourself the ultimate investment. If you do this, you will be careful to choose who and what you give you’re time to.

Make sure that you are becoming richer as a result of of the investment. You are growing in your friendships, personal and professional relationships and even in conversations. Yes, a conversation is the sharing of ideas and thoughts and words that takes place with at least one person. What we hear and listen to has an impact on how we feel. Our mental and personal health is also vital and should be strengthened, conditioned and restored on a daily basis. It is vital that we look to receiving the best product of ourselves. This all happens by what we invest in.

This year I want you to make smarter decisions in what you invest in.

 

If it does not make you grow, Let It Go.

 

Take more chances, make better financial choices, see another part of the world, eliminate fear from your heart and trust in the Father up above.

Believe in LOVE and know that your special someone is coming.

Cheers to Love, Life and the continued pursuit of happiness! ❤️

The Summer of Love


It has been an amazing ride this summer. I had a chance to witness LOVE up close and personal at two wedding! I was in such awe with the way the brides looked at their grooms with such amazement and admiration. There was a peace that came over them, like the calm after a storm. They decided in front of God, with the witness of their family and friends, to commit their lives completely to their partners.

One wedding took place in Miami on August 15th at a beautiful hotel called “The Edition”. Everything was so hot, glam and filled with fabulousness. Every sparkle, every candle illuminated the room giving way to elegance and sophistication. The All Black Wedding brought everyone on one accord with our eyes fixated on the bride and groom who were dressed in white. My friend since the 8th grade and her husband ended the night thanking all her guests for coming and took the opportunity to recite their vows which I like to call “open love letters”. One thing she said that stuck out is, “Put your faith in God, and with him all things can be possible” She went on to emphasize had it not been for him, she would not be standing here in this moment.


This past Saturday, August 22nd, my grad school mate turned friend walked down the aisle at the beautiful, Woodbury Country Club in Woodbury, NY. Upon entering the venue you felt like you were on a secluded island. The venue was filled with flowers, a pond and waterfalls. Reggae music filled the speakers giving way to a lover’s paradise. Ice sculptures carved out the names of the bride and groom in a huge heart that was showcased for all the guests to see. This wedding was all about getting down and partying. Sitting down was not an option. If you’ve ever been to a West Indian event, you know this to be true. I have never seen my friend smile so bright and when I got a chance to greet her she shouted, “I got a husband girl!” She went on to say that she is beyond happy and that this man has been their for her through sickness and in health. What more can a girl ask for?!


Two weddings two different experiences but the one thing that remained the same was their foundation in friendship. Before the “I do’s”, the rings that decorated their hands, there has been a deep rooted friendship created. Which in return gave birth to their LOVE for one another. If I haven’t learned anything from these experiences is that you need to become friends with your partners. Learn how to communicate on a level that goes beyond the physical. It is about compromise, being honest and understanding.

This summer has proven to be the season of LOVE. LOVE in its purest and most genuine form. Being apart of these events gives me hope that my LOVE is around the corner, I just gotta keep the faith.❤️

Father’s Day Feelings

Today is the day where we honor the men who have carried the title as “Father” but not in the name but in action. It makes me sad that so many people do not have a relationship with their Father’s. This day isn’t as highly publicized as mother’s day. Why the imbalance?
In my opinion a lot of men run away, turn their back on the responsibility of raising their children. One night stands with women, being financially unfit, and some still in “Peter Pan” mode. It is a hard burden for one parent to bear. I don’t like to consider Mother’s as Father’s for the role played is very different.
I want to take this time to admire and celebrate my Father as well as others for being there, being present, being a rock, providing support and for being the glue to keep households together. I commend those who have reunited later on in the lives of the children trying to make it right. I want to also send LOVE to Father’s who have been taken from this earth way too soon. You have become the guardian angels watching over your children.
Refrain from the bashing, and hate for today and send positive vibes to those you know who do an awesome job at being a Father! Happy Father’s Day to you All! ❤️

Friendship Set On Fire

Have you ever had that one person that you couldn’t shake no matter how far the distance was between y’all ? You ever have that person who occupied such a huge part of your life?  That person who gets you inside and out? That person you can be your complete self with? No judgements, no secrets and no filters? In this journey I have felt many things, heartache, confusion, sadness and disbelief to name of few. But one feeling that trumps it all is that thing called LOVE. For better or worst I still will choose it first. 
There’s this special guy who makes my heart smile. I never knew how much I loved him until now. I know you’re all thinking, “Ok, if he makes your heart smile and makes you feel so good why aren’t you with him?” Well, because life is not that simple. If things always matched up they way we wanted we would never have an opportunity to grow. There would be no room for improvement. People are put in your life as either a blessing or a lesson and this guy is a little of both. 

When our paths crossed it was like an immediate connection. The strongest I have ever felt thus far. Sure I am attracted to his physical but this thing we have goes way beyond the surface. It is as if our souls communicated with one another making a pact that would keep us binded forever. Seven years later and this guy gives me the same feeling. 

Every meetup, interaction. Every embrace is more special than the last. The way he looks at me and his touch makes me feel like I’m the only woman in the room. His smile brightens up the darkest of rooms.  He gives me a feeling that’s indescribable. He’s so in tuned with me. Picks up on my energy good or bad and just leaves me with a smile that has been tattooed on my heart. He doesn’t hold back and keeps it all the way real with me. 

And maybe his presence in my life is to serve as a reminder of what it is to feel LOVE. To be reminded of the goodness and the sweetness of LOVE. The way it feels when it covers and caresses you. This LOVE is far from sexual but sensual, soul shaking and breathtaking. Among all these things he is also my friend. Which is what is important when looking for a mate. We have that kind of friendship that has been set on fire which is where real LOVE lies.

I don’t know what the future holds for us but whatever it is, I fully accept and welcome it with open arms. ❤️

A Woman’s Work



You know a woman’s value is unmatched. Her purpose in this world couldn’t even be put into words. She is a child bearer: a creator of life. She is a nurturer that provides care to her children. She is intuitive, creating a bond that has been sealed in LOVE and strength.



She holds the weight of the world on her shoulders serving as the backbone for her family. No matter how heavy the load for her delicate back she is expected to stand up right showing no signs of weakness.



She is expected to look her best, wearing clothing that contour to her body showing off her voluptuous curves. Her lipstick traces the shape of her lips which hold the sweet words she uses to encourage her man in tough times. 



How different life would be without the presence of a woman? Before you spit out words of disrespect and slander against this precious jewel, think about the role she plays in your life. Before you decide to step out and have an affair and destroy the foundation you have built remember she is responsible for breathing life into your children. Before you think of putting a hand on her and inflicting her with pain, know that she is a reflection of your mother, aunts, sister and any woman you hold with stature. 



So take a moment  to honor, respect, cherish and appreciate  a woman’s work. For without her LOVE could never exist.❤️



6 months later

6 months and over 2,000 views later so much had changed.

My vision has sharpened. My expectations for life have heightened. Turning 30 feels and looks great. I found my voice through words and I have fallen more in LOVE with myself.

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This blog was developed in August, 2014 when I was in a great deal of frustration, embarrassment and disbelief. Instead of dealing with my issues in a different way, I decided to create this platform thanks to the encouragement of a dear friend.

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I must say this has been one of my best accomplishments to date. To think that I have the ability to create all these pieces and have the courage to share what’s in my heart is pretty amazing. I thank everyone and anyone who has decided to follow me on my journey, who leaves comments on my posts and who are just inspired overall. Writing is a form of self expression that captures raw and pure emotion and I am happy to be apart of this community that celebrates “soul writing”.

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Through my blog, I will continue to give all my readers only quality level pieces that will connect to what it means to LOVE and LOVE unconditionally. I hope my words lead you to compassion, patience and understanding.

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Always remember, “Until we know what it is to love ourselves we won’t know what it is to LOVE one another”. ❤️